Friday, July 22, 2011

In your opinion, is money important in a relationship? Consider the 'transactional' element observed in the relationships between the couples. Do you think there is an upward trend of relationships and marriages valuing money over other qualities? Provide examples for your response.

I do not quite feel that way, but I think money is only one of the attributes in building a strong relationship. Most importantly, there should be love and chemistry between the couple. That is the pre-requisite for a new relationship to start. However, in this mercenary and materialistic world, where man's morals have been significantly debased, the meaning of the word "love" has already been diluted and neglected. Intimacy with a person would be considered a relationship and it is unknown of the agenda of the other party. It may be that he or she is eyeing for your riches when keeping close to you. Such a relationship built upon money, or in other words, a monetary relationship, one full of deceptions and schemingness, has seen an surge in the society as man lived in increasing luxury and abundance. Money and financial muscle has become one of the main considerations for a relationship. Before looking at the aspect of wealth, the original basis of a relationship should really be true love and the intention is to care and sacrifice for each other. Without genuine love, there should not even be a relationship that is meant to last for an eternity. Only then does money comes into the topic. I do agree to some extent that a person's financial abililty is indeed important in a relationship. We cannot deny the role of money in our daily lives. Having a strong source of income does indeed help to maintain a good relationship. It ensures a sense of stability and security for your partner, which is the rightfully and conventionally the responsibility of the male. In this world of ours today,we virtually cannot do without money,as we do really need it to satisfy our basic living needs. Another of the attributes to a relationship would be reliability.A relationship also means that a man should be able to support his wife and his family should there be any and provide them with a comfortable life in order for happiness to exist. Thus, money is indeed required for a relationship to last. A couple would have enjoy total bliss if they lack the financial support as they will face the pressures from this money-minded world. However, if a person is married to another, but only to be covetuous of his or her spouse's riches with false love , then this would be a "transactional" relationship. There is indeed an upward trend of relationships and marriages valuing money over other qualities, and numberless instances could be raised on this. We know of famous celebrity couples, such as Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt, just to name one. There are also women who married rich tycoons, i.e Macau casino tycoon Stanley Ho's three wives. Incidences can also date back to olden days, as potrayed in the Shakespearean "Merchant Of Venice" novel in which Bassanio, a broke spendthrift, courted a marriage with the rich heiress of Belmont, Portia, mainly in the hope of laying hands on her vast inheritances to repay his debt. All these evidently highlight the importance of money in the cultivation of some relationships.

5 comments:

  1. Impressive, you have pointed out the examples in our world that evidently displays the fact that there is certainly an upward trend of people valuing money over other aspects in relationship. I believe you have pointed out the importance of money in a relationship as well. Also, I cannot agree further with your point of people coming together and one cannot be sure of another's motives of getting near him.
    Jack Tan 2O307

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  2. Hi Fu Man,

    This post is quite superb as, like Jack has mentioned, you have made use of real-life examples to support the growing trend of money being the decision-making factor of a relationship. I agree that money plays a certain role in a relationship but the relationship should not revolve all around money but also around loyalty and reliability. I would like to pose a question to you, do you think that money or reliability would play a greater role in a long-term relationship?

    Stanford Kong 2O309

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  3. I would like to correct you on the point about true love as the basis of a relationship. True love does not actually last long. What remains is commitment to each other. Thus, what you are looking for in a relationship is not the supposed 'true love', but rather, your mutual understanding, tolerance as well as liking for each other.

    On a positive note, you have provided solid evidence from the viewpoint of both sides. Something that I like is that you stated that although money often results in materialistic relationships, the saying "money makes the world go round" still stands firm, no matter how you object. Money is something you need in order to even survive in this current society.

    Gregory Tan 2O3 (25)

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  4. Hey fuman, great that you tackle this question with 2 sides of viewpoint. For the part whereby you state another attribute to relationship is reliability whereby money is involved, can we also say the a relationship is not only attributed by reliability but also reality, where you stated about examples like the women who married rich tycoons, i.e Macau casino tycoon Stanley Ho's three wives.

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  5. Yes I agree with you it is great to see you considering both sides of the story and moreover providing us with examples in our society.Your point that money is not everything in a relationship but also love and chemistry is required , I totally agree. Great JOB

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